my friends and i heard something from somewhere a long time ago about how to decide if the man/woman your with is a sure thing...
and that is, "the opening your door visual" - the point is - look into the future and see if you can imagine the man your dating opening the door to the home you live in - do you see him answering the door to your door bell? Inviting friends in while playing host to your guests...do you see that? It may sound silly but really, take a step back, think about your current lover a few years down the road...do you see him opening your door?
now, what i have added to this said theory is that opening your door and growing old with someone are two different things.
seeing someone opening your door - can be imagined many times...i mean sure, i saw some of my past relationships opening my door, in fact they did, but what I never saw with them is growing old...taking care of each other and playing card games when you're 80 years old just to keep asking each other whose turn it is. Now that's the question I always ask....do you see you and him, rocking chairs with velcro sneaks, diapers, ride or dying together?
thats what i look for, if you cant see the person your with in the above mentioned scenerio maybe you should reflect on your next move...
just my opinion. i think one of the troubles we have with relationships is learning when to follow your heart which is really your intuition and flee from a bad relationship before it is too late and you find yourself 5-10 years down the road miserable, lost, and wondering where the person inside of you went. so wake up! wake up now. we really do waste too much of our precious time, dont ya think?
enter.resting.
Groovy entry, Chica ... yes, quite groovy. Touching on your final paragraph, I would like the pose the question to you: Exactly WHERE does evolution come into play? Lets take time to consider that the lovers you had in the past had to EVOLVE into someone you would picture "Opening your door", correct? So why can't that same lover evolve, once again, into someone to play Hearts with at the age of 83? I have always subscribed to the idea that the cure for misery in a romance sometimes can be a shift of your romantic paradigm. Nevertheless, as I said before, this is a groovy entry and I would enjoy seeing more. Be Peace, Ms. Ross. --The Hedonist
ReplyDeletei do believe that a true relationship evolves constantly and that is one thing we fail to recognize a lot. when the relationship stops evolving into something much deeper and/or one that inspires growth in each partner, is when we fail to abort-the-ship. sometimes an evolving relationship and one that is just sucking you dry are hard to differentiate. especially when you think you're in love. thank you Mr. Hedonist for the compliments...
ReplyDeleteFabulous Curtain Call KalinaRoss...
ReplyDeleteI believe that we are brought to situations and people for lessons that we are most of the time, unaware of the reason. If not for those people, we'd be stuck unable to fully evolve, but if he learned the lesson of what we need and want early on, if we spent the time with ourselves earlier would we need as many lessons? With this you bring up a great way to view your partner... will this person open the door? Being that you and I both hold qualities of hosting parties and desire people who can socialize for themselves, it doesn't surprise me that this theory would capture you as it has now captured me.
I love the set up, I love the thoughts... keep writing KalinaRoss :)