i was at my grandmas yesterday, who returned home from a months stay in and out of the ER and Rehab. she has lived on her own for the last few years since my grandpa died, and has always been at peace about it...but not today. my mothers sister has been staying with her for the last few days but must now return home and in one week she will have the company of her other daughter. yesterday was her first night alone in over a month. you could see the sadness pouring from my grandmas eyes, an almost anxious feeling - hesitating to tell the truth of her sorrow.
jumping straight to the point, what is it about us that makes us fight back the urge to scream "I'M LONELY!!!"
how many of you sit in your house alone, thinking about your loneliness? hiding it by keeping yourself busy with house chores, work, or playing on the internet...i recently had a conversation with a good friend of mine and we had the best laugh as we admitted each of our facebook adventures or rather -obsession? addiction? we practically finished each others sentences with things like, "yes, i refresh the page like every four minutes!" and "flipping back and forth from my page to the status home page! just to see if maybe, just maybe something changed!" laughing - laughing - laughing! we continued on with more embarrassing facts about the extreme measures we take just to reach out to someone, anyone!! HELP!!! I'M LONELY!!!!
i know you are reading this thinking i am crazy right? admit it. I did. I know you are in your pj’s cracked out on facebook, don’t lie! We can’t all be so different when it comes to the basic needs of being human. we are, after all, ALL human.
let's also keep in mind that just because i, we, you, her and him are on facebook constantly, seeking any type of midnight human interaction, does not mean that we are not living our lives. everyone works, we all are working on our dreams, and we all have a ridiculous amount of obligations! But, lets take a moment to shout it out, seek out and take the extra step to reach out to someone who really may be more lonely than you and say HELLO! How many studies have proven that just being friendly in general could save someone's life?
call your grandma, mom, dad, friend, sister, acquaintance, lover, anyone and have a conversation. or even an email nowadays!
enter.resting.
Monday, August 16, 2010
Saturday, August 14, 2010
opening the door...
my friends and i heard something from somewhere a long time ago about how to decide if the man/woman your with is a sure thing...
and that is, "the opening your door visual" - the point is - look into the future and see if you can imagine the man your dating opening the door to the home you live in - do you see him answering the door to your door bell? Inviting friends in while playing host to your guests...do you see that? It may sound silly but really, take a step back, think about your current lover a few years down the road...do you see him opening your door?
now, what i have added to this said theory is that opening your door and growing old with someone are two different things.
seeing someone opening your door - can be imagined many times...i mean sure, i saw some of my past relationships opening my door, in fact they did, but what I never saw with them is growing old...taking care of each other and playing card games when you're 80 years old just to keep asking each other whose turn it is. Now that's the question I always ask....do you see you and him, rocking chairs with velcro sneaks, diapers, ride or dying together?
thats what i look for, if you cant see the person your with in the above mentioned scenerio maybe you should reflect on your next move...
just my opinion. i think one of the troubles we have with relationships is learning when to follow your heart which is really your intuition and flee from a bad relationship before it is too late and you find yourself 5-10 years down the road miserable, lost, and wondering where the person inside of you went. so wake up! wake up now. we really do waste too much of our precious time, dont ya think?
enter.resting.
and that is, "the opening your door visual" - the point is - look into the future and see if you can imagine the man your dating opening the door to the home you live in - do you see him answering the door to your door bell? Inviting friends in while playing host to your guests...do you see that? It may sound silly but really, take a step back, think about your current lover a few years down the road...do you see him opening your door?
now, what i have added to this said theory is that opening your door and growing old with someone are two different things.
seeing someone opening your door - can be imagined many times...i mean sure, i saw some of my past relationships opening my door, in fact they did, but what I never saw with them is growing old...taking care of each other and playing card games when you're 80 years old just to keep asking each other whose turn it is. Now that's the question I always ask....do you see you and him, rocking chairs with velcro sneaks, diapers, ride or dying together?
thats what i look for, if you cant see the person your with in the above mentioned scenerio maybe you should reflect on your next move...
just my opinion. i think one of the troubles we have with relationships is learning when to follow your heart which is really your intuition and flee from a bad relationship before it is too late and you find yourself 5-10 years down the road miserable, lost, and wondering where the person inside of you went. so wake up! wake up now. we really do waste too much of our precious time, dont ya think?
enter.resting.
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