i attended a wedding tonight and of course i have to add that it was a gay wedding. i hate to separate like that but you do sometimes. which is why i am writing now. i have had many conversations lately when it comes to the issue of being "gay" and why anyone cares what others choose to do with their lives... its not your life and its not something you're deciding - so then why do we as a society care what others choose? why do we even have an option as a political candidate to publicly express what side we agree with? same goes for religion. sex preference and religion should not be relavent in regards to determining a war or say...education, general law making or health care plans for an entire population...am i crazy?
anyways, it was beautiful. it was one of the most genuine weddings i have experienced in a LONG time. what i've noticed is gay people tend to get married more for the love of one another, and "straight" people get married for more wrong reasons than right. thats whats so funny (and people say "they" should not be able to get married). to me, straight as i am, i think most people get married for the "status" they assume within society once that silly little piece of metal is placed onto the "ring" finger. i think we should change the ring finger into the middle finger because thats what most peoples marriages end up like...
im ranting but in my opinion, it seems to be true for most of the "marriages" i have witnessed in front of my eyes. no one seems happy. everyone is settling. kids are being born, then ignored because the parents are too wrapped up in their own drama. hearts are torn and nothing is as genuine as it seems it should be. but for one moment, when i glanced around the crowd tonight, i saw people that were there with nothing negative to say, no whisper talking about what the groom had done in the past, no talk about how "when i get married, he better come correct," or whatever ridiculous thing i have heard some married people say about what they will be "expecting" from their mate once the finger is placed with a ring! all i saw was passion, love and true commitment. thank you to my friends who tied the knot, honestly and genuinely. i salute your love and devotion and wish you nothing but the best!
it also rained... all i could think was...dang! i wish a rainbow would appear! that would have been extra awesome!
disclaimer: dont take everything i say so seriously. im emotional too. i sometimes stand to be corrected (so feel free to say whatever you want in my comments, thanks for reading either way). and im not obviously saying that all marriages are wrong, calm down.
Who others choose to love or choose to marry or indeed how they choose to show that love is no ones business but theirs. Gay rights are the last field of civil rights in the United States. I qualify that the "in the United States" part because in many European countries it has been dealt with Canada, Norway, Sweden, Belgium, The Netherlands, Spain and Portugal where Gay marriage is legal and recognized. Many other European countries recognize Civil Partnerships and many have banned ALL anti-gay discrimination. It's about time we did the same.
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